HOW TO LOOK & FEEL CONFIDENT

EVEN ON DAYS WHEN YOU DOUBT YOURSELF

As someone who has been fronting the lens to document outfits and moods, being confident has not always been my strongest forte. I would rather limit my energy to just styling and designing only – basically I am more confident when I work behind the camera. However, being in front of the camera and taking the role of a model to blog my outfits has made me tackle what I thought was impossible five years ago.

Mid conversation with a friend the other day, I realized the first time I ever spoke or addressed a large group of people was when I was studying for my A’levels. I remember how nerve-wracking it was for me. And the popular advice “imagine everyone is naked” did not exactly work for me. I had to be more realistic as I was in a very real and inescapable situation. After my speech, I stepped down from the stage, feeling relieved. This was the first of many speeches and presentations that I was to deliver in future. And I can definitely say that it has been getting a lot easier ever since.

I am no expert in giving advice on confidence as I still am learning on how to perfect it. But, I will share a few tips and tricks which I use:

  • Most of my outfit photos are shot on the street. And as you would know, street shoots mean onlookers. And I have been frequently asked how I tackle such situations, whether I feel uncomfortable. Yes, it is never easy when you have several eyes on you. So, whenever I am in a crowded street I just think to myself :
    – I won’t be seeing these people again!
    – People forget what happened a few minutes later as they go on with their daily lives.
    This has definitely made it a tad bit easier for me to feel bold during a shoot.
  • Stand tall, pull your shoulders back and breathe. Bringing your confidence does not require an internal push only. The slightest physical adjustment helps to give an extra boost.
  • When a camera is pointed at me, I need to act and play the part of a model. So, I just pretend I am Tyra Banks, Bella Hadid or just anyone who I think looks confident always. Imagining myself as a super model helped to boost my confidence for that particular moment. After all the camera will capture an emotion and feeling you portray – so you might as well deliver it with all you got!
  • I always make sure to be prepared. Whether it is a photoshoot, presentation or speech. The latter being the hardest for me. Practice most definitely makes perfect!
  • Shut out the negative thoughts : Do not worry about what the other person is thinking. Focus only on delivering what you are there to do. Focus on yourself!

As for this post’s photos, I am wearing a faux leather shirt I got from Ebay, a Regal Rose dagger necklace in vintage gold and earrings from Famushu.

Photographs are taken by my very talented friend Aani Zuhair
Make-up by the wonderful Rizna

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